Yesterday, while celebrating his wife, the general overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God, Pastor Adeboye made some comments that have spiked controversies bordering on marriage. Pastor Adeboye, like he has always preached stated that a wife’s submissiveness promotes long-lasting marriages among other things.
Speaking of his wife’s qualities, he aims they would serve as a lesson to other women.
Pastor Adeboye’s Tweet
“She is a powerful woman, I know that. She has many people who take instructions from her, but as powerful as she is and even though she has seen me in my weakest moments, I have no doubt that I am her head. It does not matter what is on her itinerary if I say I would like you to go with me to so and so place the best she can do is try to convince me otherwise.
“If I insist, she would cancel whatever she was to do and come along with me. The Bible in Ephesians 5:23 says: “For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church…
“The husband is the head of the wife. No matter how educated or successful you are, your husband is your head and you must regard him as such at all times. It is a terrible thing for a husband to feel his wife is his head. Many men are misbehaving in their marriages simply because they want to establish that they are the head of their wives. Also, my wife is my number one fan.
“She wrote in the book Mathematics of Marriage – which we coauthored, that as my helpmate she knows she cannot help me without my instructions, so when they come, her response is Yes sir. Busy as she is, she still cooks my meals and serves me herself. Many young ladies these days leave everything to the house help.
“My wife still trims my nails for me. There was a time when I was a teacher and was staying far from town. She had to cut my hair during that period. Anything I uphold, she upholds too. Can your husband rely on you?. Make up for your husband’s weaknesses, celebrate his successes, be his number one cheerleader.
I wish my lovely wife a Happy Birthday @PastorFAAdeboye.
There were several reactions to pastor Adeboye’s tweets. While for some people, his idea of marriage had elements of slavery and not love, some others are of the opinion that marriage can only work with the principles of submissiveness.
A tweet read thus:
Never read something so ……I have no words, this man epitomizes his generation of Nigerians, the foolishness, the lack of knowledge, wickedness of the mind, misogyny, I can go on and on. I feel very sick reading this.
Who trims her nail, who’s her cheerleader, she’s not deserving of that. On her freeking birthday you couldn’t give the woman a break you just made the whole thing about yourself, she basically exists through your shadow. Her purpose in life is to serve you all the days of her life.
Opinions on the other side of the narrative stated that
Reading through the comments, I could see a gigantic gap between two generations. One with understanding and the other with foolishness. A marriage of 52 years is talking, marriages that don’t last 12 months are feeling disgust, because of the word: “submissive”.
Trying to Follow this thread makes me smile ..I see an exemplary Christian home .. I know this is Gods idea of a perfect home ..Daddy I’m happy for you! You found a wife Mummy @PastorFAAdeboye. I promise God on this day to help my husband (future) like you did .. God bless u.